This was my first summer as a single girl in about 5 years, can you imagine? I have been in a long term relationship since then that ended early this year in the spring, and I have never looked back. Not even once. How is it that I have found so much comfort in being on my own, when the whole world seems to be looking for relationships and romance? I don’t know, but the reality of it is…a relationship is a lot of work! As women, we put so much into dating and our boyfriends, and when we think about it, how productive would we be if we were single, spent our time on ourselves, our work and career, our family and friends? We could finally be the “super” women that is expected of us–to be everything and more.
I recently saw the movie “View from the Top” again, as it was playing TV, and I remembered why I liked it. It was on the W Network, which is notorious for showcasing sappy rom coms that bombed with critics and viewers alike. And the movie “View from the Top”, from 2003, was no exception. It was a critical flop, but I actually really loved this movie many reasons: It talked about beauty, ambition–it was about a woman’s journey for love and career, and it was also pretty funny (Mike Myers was in it). Donna Jenkins (Gwyneth Paltrow) is a woman with a mission to become a flight attendant, but not just any flight attendant, but to be the best. She has to choose between the man who loves her and her career destiny, and is back stabbed by her girl friend along the way, hence an over the top cat fight scene with Christina Applegate. Loved it. So much fun. (**spoilers of the movie ahead, beware…)
Reasons why “View from the Top” was not a turkey: (*spoilers)
- It is about following your dreams. Whatever they might be. Donna wanted to be a flight attendant, and loved the glamour and worldly prestige it gave her: to be elegant, classy and well-traveled, which seemed to be the antidote of her upbringing in a trailer park in a no-where town. Even if you have no desire to be a flight attendant, it is a metaphor to go for your dreams whatever they may be…and to be ambitious about it.
- Donna put her career before her man. Here she was, with Ted (Mark Ruffalo) telling her he was in love with her, and to stay with him in Cleveland, but she chose to go to Paris, as a first class flight attendant, because she believed it was her true calling. She put her needs first.
- After realizing she made a mistake, Donna takes responsibility for it and fixes it. When Donna realized she loved Ted back and had proven to herself she could be the top at what she does, only then does she go back to Ted in Cleveland, and tells him she wants to be with him. It proves she is on her own journey, and not on his.
- Paltrow gives a great performance on the eternal struggle of beauty vs brains vs ambition and is always super pretty, whether in her hicktown get ups, or in her evolution to classy Parisian lady. Fashion and make-up wise, what more can you ask for?
But back to my own thoughts of my summer on my own: I’ve loved it. I’ve launched my company selling online cosmetics with natural ingredients: dreamecosmetics.com, spent quality time with my kid, friends and family, and have just realized how nice it is to not have a boyfriend. To be my own person, trying to make a living, and trying to live in this world. 🙂 I am not saying that “View from the Top” was negative for making Donna need to be with Ted in conclusion (as so many people had complained). I respect all choices of women, but boy am I glad to be on my own and aiming for the top, with no regrets or desire to settle any time soon.